Comments on: The Inspiring Moms Club – Meet Suzanne from Taking Care of You http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/ Where living my dream unfolds... Sat, 04 Feb 2012 05:13:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Suzanne http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11122 Suzanne Wed, 12 Aug 2009 04:44:18 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11122 Lisa ~ Thank you for your kind words and wonderful feedback. As you alluded to, when we let go of what perfect balance should ‘look like’, our life does seem to become balanced for the moment as we find satisfaction right where we are. Jennifer ~ Thank you for following the link and taking the time to read my thoughts. I appreciate your insightful feedback. "When Do I Get Taken Care Of" on IChooseChange.com would also make a great read for the readers of Create a Balance & Taking Care of You. It's very much inline with the purpose both Stacey and I have--to help others learn to take care of themselves and find balance. "Balance and self-care are such personal choices, don’t you agree?" Absolutely! Growing our self awareness will aid us in learning what is our "right" way. On some days, time for me might be to have time doing something in particular and, on others, time for me is having nothing to do and allowing the time to be spent as it comes. I may end up doing nothing "productive" but I still have enjoyed every minute of it because I spent time with me. :-) Wilma ~ I love your method. You consciously make a choice based on what you believe will add value and, eventually, fulfillment (by getting the heart to buy-in!) Stacey ~ Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perceptions about my words. I really appreciate the opportunity you provided to share my thoughts on life balance. Lisa ~ Thank you for your kind words and wonderful feedback. As you alluded to, when we let go of what perfect balance should ‘look like’, our life does seem to become balanced for the moment as we find satisfaction right where we are.

Jennifer ~ Thank you for following the link and taking the time to read my thoughts. I appreciate your insightful feedback. “When Do I Get Taken Care Of” on IChooseChange.com would also make a great read for the readers of Create a Balance & Taking Care of You. It’s very much inline with the purpose both Stacey and I have–to help others learn to take care of themselves and find balance.

“Balance and self-care are such personal choices, don’t you agree?”

Absolutely! Growing our self awareness will aid us in learning what is our “right” way. On some days, time for me might be to have time doing something in particular and, on others, time for me is having nothing to do and allowing the time to be spent as it comes. I may end up doing nothing “productive” but I still have enjoyed every minute of it because I spent time with me. :-)

Wilma ~ I love your method. You consciously make a choice based on what you believe will add value and, eventually, fulfillment (by getting the heart to buy-in!)

Stacey ~ Thank you for sharing your thoughts and perceptions about my words. I really appreciate the opportunity you provided to share my thoughts on life balance.

]]> By: Stacey / Create a Balance http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11120 Stacey / Create a Balance Wed, 12 Aug 2009 03:06:07 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11120 <b>Wilma</b> - Thank you for mentioning values. Incorporating your personal values is a vital component of practicing the art of life balance. It sounds as if it really helps you put things into perspective. <b>Jennifer</b> - I often find myself balancing needing to "do" with wanting to "be". Wilma – Thank you for mentioning values. Incorporating your personal values is a vital component of practicing the art of life balance. It sounds as if it really helps you put things into perspective.

Jennifer – I often find myself balancing needing to “do” with wanting to “be”.

]]> By: Jennifer | I Choose Change http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11118 Jennifer | I Choose Change Wed, 12 Aug 2009 00:05:31 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11118 Wilma - I think that's a great way to look at balance! I was struck also by the word "do" - knowing of course this is just semantics, but wanting to also point out that sometimes self-care and balance doesn't have to be about "doing" anything at all. As an example, what I asked from my husband for my birthday recently is a "day off" (from playing point-man with childcare duties). My husband watched my toddler twins most of the day as I went to coffee with one friend, lunch with another, shopping with another... it was all great, but not my idea of a "day off" honestly. A day off to me is simply doing absolutely NOTHING (gazing at my wall, closing my eyes to be with my own thoughts, or be blank, etc.). Yes, I guess technically those are "doing" things, but I also think we put so much pressure on ourselves to think of traditional ways to "do" self-care (a pedicure, shopping without kids, no work after hours, etc.) that we forget the art of simply doing NOTHING! Balance and self-care are such personal choices, don't you agree? =) Wilma – I think that’s a great way to look at balance! I was struck also by the word “do” – knowing of course this is just semantics, but wanting to also point out that sometimes self-care and balance doesn’t have to be about “doing” anything at all. As an example, what I asked from my husband for my birthday recently is a “day off” (from playing point-man with childcare duties). My husband watched my toddler twins most of the day as I went to coffee with one friend, lunch with another, shopping with another… it was all great, but not my idea of a “day off” honestly. A day off to me is simply doing absolutely NOTHING (gazing at my wall, closing my eyes to be with my own thoughts, or be blank, etc.). Yes, I guess technically those are “doing” things, but I also think we put so much pressure on ourselves to think of traditional ways to “do” self-care (a pedicure, shopping without kids, no work after hours, etc.) that we forget the art of simply doing NOTHING! Balance and self-care are such personal choices, don’t you agree? =)

]]> By: Wilma Ham http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11114 Wilma Ham Tue, 11 Aug 2009 23:10:42 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11114 Balance for me is choosing to do things because they add value and my heart agrees to do them. Does it add value to do the dishes now or does it add value to me to sit down and have some time for ME? This habit lets me to stop just a second before racing off and getting overwhelmed by all the tasks ahead of me. Just that little moment makes me value my time, my efforts and my heart and stops me from mindlessly exhausting myself. Balance for me is choosing to do things because they add value and my heart agrees to do them.
Does it add value to do the dishes now or does it add value to me to sit down and have some time for ME?
This habit lets me to stop just a second before racing off and getting overwhelmed by all the tasks ahead of me. Just that little moment makes me value my time, my efforts and my heart and stops me from mindlessly exhausting myself.

]]> By: Stacey / Create a Balance http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11084 Stacey / Create a Balance Tue, 11 Aug 2009 03:36:54 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11084 <b>Lisa (mommymystic)</b> - I hear you. Balance for me is all about a process, a journey. It's never about a destination. And for me, it's also about one day, one week, one month, and one year at a time. I'll be writing more about that on my blog. And I really really dislike the word perfect. Perfect balance will never exist in my life. That is one thing I know for sure. In regards to my meditation practice, my own balance between discipline and surrender is my hardest balance yet! <b>Jennifer</b> - Welcome to the Create a Balance community. I also loved how Suzanne wrote about being fully present in her life. That really jumped out at me and has stayed with me ever since I read it. I'm on vacation with my children and have been very mindful this week about being fully present with my children...even when they are screaming. Cheers to giving ourselves permission to honor and nurture our authentic selves. Lisa (mommymystic) – I hear you. Balance for me is all about a process, a journey. It’s never about a destination. And for me, it’s also about one day, one week, one month, and one year at a time. I’ll be writing more about that on my blog. And I really really dislike the word perfect. Perfect balance will never exist in my life. That is one thing I know for sure. In regards to my meditation practice, my own balance between discipline and surrender is my hardest balance yet!

Jennifer – Welcome to the Create a Balance community. I also loved how Suzanne wrote about being fully present in her life. That really jumped out at me and has stayed with me ever since I read it. I’m on vacation with my children and have been very mindful this week about being fully present with my children…even when they are screaming. Cheers to giving ourselves permission to honor and nurture our authentic selves.

]]> By: Jennifer Ryan | I Choose Change http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11083 Jennifer Ryan | I Choose Change Tue, 11 Aug 2009 02:32:25 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11083 Suzanne, What a great post! Thank you so much for the trackback link. I love the fact that you say, simply, "I try." That is really all we can do, isn't it? What I also love is that you say you are fully present in all facets of your life. Especially with your children, I think that is so important. I read a quote the other day in a great book I'm reading ("Becoming Attached" by Robert Karen) and it was quoted from John Bowlby saying, "Our Children are the Father's of Men." I had to read it several times to really feel what that mean...I felt it in my core. WE are the father's of men, as our parents taught us, and now we are passing down to our kids what we have to give to them. No, it isn't perfect, but... we try. And, we must show our fathers, balance. In all aspects of our lives, we try to be, do and give what we know we can. And yet, let's not forget giving to ourselves, so that we can raise these "fathers to men." Bravo on a great post! Jennifer =) Suzanne,

What a great post! Thank you so much for the trackback link. I love the fact that you say, simply, “I try.” That is really all we can do, isn’t it? What I also love is that you say you are fully present in all facets of your life. Especially with your children, I think that is so important.

I read a quote the other day in a great book I’m reading (“Becoming Attached” by Robert Karen) and it was quoted from John Bowlby saying, “Our Children are the Father’s of Men.” I had to read it several times to really feel what that mean…I felt it in my core. WE are the father’s of men, as our parents taught us, and now we are passing down to our kids what we have to give to them. No, it isn’t perfect, but… we try. And, we must show our fathers, balance.

In all aspects of our lives, we try to be, do and give what we know we can. And yet, let’s not forget giving to ourselves, so that we can raise these “fathers to men.”

Bravo on a great post!

Jennifer =)

]]> By: Lisa (mommymystic) http://evolvingstacey.com/the-inspiring-moms-club-meet-suzanne-from-taking-care-of-you/comment-page-1/#comment-11076 Lisa (mommymystic) Mon, 10 Aug 2009 22:03:44 +0000 http://createabalance.com/?p=2667#comment-11076 Stacey/Suzanne - I love this idea that balance is a verb, not a noun. I think this gets to the essence of it exactly. For me, it's a constant process or assessing and tweaking, day by day, month by month, week by week. I think as soon as I let go of some idea in my head of what perfect balance 'looks like' I can relax and just deal with whatever life has presented to me on a particular day. Otherwise, it's too easy to just always feel like I am falling short. Interestingly, I meditate and teach meditation, and I think meditation practice itself is exactly like this - a balancing act, between discipline and surrender, control and release. Anyway, I like all the other points too, thanks for a great post. - Lisa Stacey/Suzanne – I love this idea that balance is a verb, not a noun. I think this gets to the essence of it exactly. For me, it’s a constant process or assessing and tweaking, day by day, month by month, week by week. I think as soon as I let go of some idea in my head of what perfect balance ‘looks like’ I can relax and just deal with whatever life has presented to me on a particular day. Otherwise, it’s too easy to just always feel like I am falling short. Interestingly, I meditate and teach meditation, and I think meditation practice itself is exactly like this – a balancing act, between discipline and surrender, control and release.
Anyway, I like all the other points too, thanks for a great post. – Lisa

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